Personal Development

There are 5 Languages of Love.

You and your partner may "Love each inside & out" but for some strange reason you may not "feel" loved - mainly because you're partner doesn't "do this" or "do that".
You know - the things that (to you) mean they show they love you.

You may say - "She never buys me a present on my Birthday"
Yes she tells me she loves me, and she does all the right things - but if she REALLY loved me why wouldn't she buy me a present on my Birthday!"

The reason (even though you DO love ach other) is that you may not be aware of the 5 Languages of Love and right now you could well be mis communicating your Love.

Let me explain....

People communicate Love in different ways.

They "show love" and "feel loved" in different ways.

Eg: Some people like flowers (getting gifts) - yet others couldn't care less about "Gifts" but really love and need "Words of Affirmation"

eg: hearing thing like, like "I love you" "You look great in that dress" etc, etc.

Someone else may not need to hear "I love you" and these "Words of Affirmation" at all
but instead they look more towards "Actions - not Words"

Actions also being known as "Acts of Service"
eg: Making them a cup of tea, or picking up the groceries so your partner doesn't have to, getting up to change the babies nappy so your wife doesn't need to - these are "Acts of Service"

Someone else may not "feel loved" if they just don't get to spend enough "Quality Time" with you.

In summary: We all feel loved in different ways. And we tend to show someone "we love them" by doing the thing that "makes US feel loved" when someone does it for us.

This is the mistake!

Forget the old saying - "Treat others as YOU wish to be treated."

No - big error (because it's not all about YOU) correctly it's

Treat others as "THEY wish to be treated"

Can you see the difference.

You see - what happens when "Gifts is your thing" but your partners is "Quality time"?
So you go.. "..But I always buy your partner flowers??? And nice Presents???"

And she says..."But we never spend enough TIME together"

Make sense.

The 5 Languages of Love are:

1. Gifts
2. Acts of Service
3. Physical Intimacy
4. Quality Time
5. Words of Affirmation

I will break each one down and explain them abit better

Gifts:
You may feel loved by being given a Gift. Rememeber these don't have to be BIG Gifts or things. Say small things like being given the gift of Flowers - or your partner bringing you the gift of your favourite packet of crisps home after work - gifts big or small - they all count.

The rest to follow later....